Where are you in my heart?
The passionate love scale
This’s what I found in this book of social psychology by Elliot Aronson and his co-authors.. and I thought it would be interesting to share and know where are your friends in your heart.. =)
1. I would feel despair if ___ left me.
2. Sometimes I feel I can’t control my thoughts; they’re obsessively on ___ .
3. I feel happy when I’m doing something to make ___ happy.
4. I would rather be with ___ than anyone else.
5. I’d get jealous if I thought ___ were falling in love with someone else.
6. I yearn to know all about ___.
7. I want ___ -physically, emotionally, mentally.
8. I have an endless appetite for affection from___.
9. For me, ___ is the perfect romantic partner.
10. I sense my body responding when ___ touches me.
11. ___ always seems to be on my mind.
12. I want ___ to know me - my thoughts, my fears and my hopes.
13. I eagerly look for signs indicating ___’s desire for me.
14. I possess a powerful attraction for___.
15. I get extremely depressed when things don’t go right in my relationship with ____.
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Do you find the same name recurring many times in the blanks you’ve filled mentally? Well if you don’t, you should do something about that, because I deliberately twisted the test to help you find how close is that ’special one’ to you really… Does it match what you would’ve cognitively know? The real test is this: rank from a scale of 1 to 9, 1 being ‘Not at all true’ to the other extreme end that is ‘Definitely true’. Then you’re suppose to score above a certain marks to reach a healthy level of relationship. Well I thought its silly to quantify ‘love’ so I’m not posing the passing marks… in any case, you should know it in your heart already… =)
(Adapted from Hatfield & Sprecher,1986)
