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Everyone has this powerful beast inside. When its caged, kept docile, its easy to forget that it exists. However once awaken, its owner becomes savagery, tearing everything in its path asunder, betraying its character as this uncontrollable beast devour his master of his form and betraying his honour. Such implications could be disastrous, leaving permanent imprint on the minds of others, entrenching in their memory bad recollections that is enough to replace every good deed with rotten ones.

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Such is the power of rage, when emotion is ignited and set ablaze. The man is consumed and his future burned to ashes. There is little that can be helped sometimes, for he is cursed to co-exist with this destructive beast until his youth expires. But he’s surely sorry after he has subdued his beast, at least for a while now…

Before I start bitching on the subject matter, and lest you my wise readers from forming strong opinions against me to defend your honor, I like to remind you again that I like you is still in this sphere of blogging, that is we’re all in the same boat but I’m sorry that I just like to poke hole on it…

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How many times have we been deluded into thinking that a blog post is equivalent to a diary writing? That relationship is not as sharp and focused as one speak to mind, but is often subtle and guides the readers to judge one at a tongue’s length. This is especially true when readers do not employ critical thinking on their part, becoming empathetic of one’s ‘deep confession’ or outburst of emotions which is often mistakenly judged as the blogger’s moral compass. This common fault of misjudging came to light to me one day when my eyes danced on two squabbling blogs from both parties. Although each refrained from disclosing the identity of the opposing ‘bad guy’ and kept victimising themselves as innocent, simple, mistaken goodies. That sort of ’self-confession’ is really amusing if you read them back to back, as long as you don’t read too deeply into it.

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There are endless possibilities one could make use of blogs, of love or hate, pain or pleasure. And certainly I would derail its joy of self-expression if I narrowly defined it as a form of conscious instrument. Just that in a time of blog-warring where everyone is abusing it and no one regulating it(of cuz I wouldn’t like that too!), I just hope there’s enough sense for readers to decide if that post is genuine or mindless demagogue. After all, in crafting this ‘noble’ warning blog to one and all to inoculate against the blog abusers, it took me some time and with some effort thou..

The passionate love scale

This’s what I found in this book of social psychology by Elliot Aronson and his co-authors.. and I thought it would be interesting to share and know where are your friends in your heart.. =)

1. I would feel despair if ___ left me.

2. Sometimes I feel I can’t control my thoughts; they’re obsessively on ___ .

3. I feel happy when I’m doing something to make ___ happy.

4. I would rather be with ___ than anyone else.

5. I’d get jealous if I thought ___ were falling in love with someone else.

6. I yearn to know all about ___.

7. I want ___ -physically, emotionally, mentally.

8. I have an endless appetite for affection from___.

9. For me, ___ is the perfect romantic partner.

10. I sense my body responding when ___ touches me.

11. ___ always seems to be on my mind.

12. I want ___ to know me - my thoughts, my fears and my hopes.

13. I eagerly look for signs indicating ___’s desire for me.

14. I possess a powerful attraction for___.

15. I get extremely depressed when things don’t go right in my relationship with ____.

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Do you find the same name recurring many times in the blanks you’ve filled mentally? Well if you don’t, you should do something about that, because I deliberately twisted the test to help you find how close is that ’special one’ to you really… Does it match what you would’ve cognitively know? The real test is this: rank from a scale of 1 to 9, 1 being ‘Not at all true’ to the other extreme end that is ‘Definitely true’. Then you’re suppose to score above a certain marks to reach a healthy level of relationship. Well I thought its silly to quantify ‘love’ so I’m not posing the passing marks… in any case, you should know it in your heart already… =)

(Adapted from Hatfield & Sprecher,1986)